So lately I've been hearing more and more about girls feeling like a single parent while there husbands are deployed or away etc.. and not that your wrong for feeling like that I completely disagree. Before you guys go an flip out on me.. It's just my personal opinion and your not wrong for feeling like that. The more I think about it though, the further away I feel from feeling like a single parent.
1.)Single parents really don't have the financial support coming in from the other parent. Whether its child support or them buying clothes, diapers, formula etc for the child. Usually the parent with FULL custody is usually supporting them 100% pay check to pay check! And I said USUALLY, because in some cases there are some who have both. While the other parent if out being irresponsible and falling behind on child support, the other one is working 2-3 jobs trying to make ends meet and pay for some kind of child care. However us wives of a deployed spouse have the option of not working an being a full time mom. YES we have to do everything..but isn't that the least you could do an NOT complain about it while your soldier is out working his ass off? And for those of you whose husband is deployed and you still work and come home to do you your wifely duties, then good for you:)
2.) Single parents don't have to ask the other parent if they agree with your choice of disciplining. Or ask them there advice on what they should do if something happens. I know I still have to ask an take into consideration on what Levi thinks an feels on the subject whether right across the room or halfway around the world.
Of course everyone needs a break once in a while from there kids and it's a lot harder to get privacy an an quiet time with your husband not being in the other room so you can slip away for 5 minutes. However, my life isn't much different when it comes to parenting with him here or there. I choose to to do everything on my own during the week because I feel he shouldn't have to wake up go do PT, deal with a bunch a crap at work an then have to come home an deal with all the duties of parenting. Theres wives that just pass the kid off the second there husbands get home because they've had to deal with them all day. Don't get me wrong, he still comes home an hangs out with us && plays and helps with bath time, I just don't make him take care of the kids full time! And on weekends he gets up with them and does it all. So it works for us. And like I said no one is wrong for feeling like a single parent, this is just the way I feel about it personally! :)
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